Thursday, October 15, 2009


So, this morning was great.  One hour of time with dh before he went to work and I said/did not one negative thing.  Small gain, yes.  But it was a big one for me. :) 

Then around three or so I realized dh would be home soon.  And wow.  I was so worried about messing up and having to do "Day 1- take 5" that I was near tears.  I called out to my girls on twitter and was met with the most enlightening tweet ever.  (In my experience, anyway)

Krista of Typical Ramblings had this to say:

Day one doesn't have to be perfect. Mine wasn't - but it makes you aware of what you need to work on. And day one is cumulative for the 40 days so you get lots more chances to practice.

I can't thank her enough for reminding me that this is a matter of baby steps.  One day at a time.  Progress- Not perfection. 

And then dh came home....




Just kidding!  Actually the rest of the day went well.  I asked if he would be ok watching kids while I went to Staples with my bff and he did.  I came home later than either one of us expected me to.  oops...  And when I apologized I meant it.  And he said it was ok???  Who is this man and what has he done with my husband?  Whoever he is- I like him.

Twice today I thought I might say something negative but I took a deep breath and made sure I was calm before I said anything. 

Do I think I'm cured of saying negative things?  No.  Do I think I could say fewer negative things than I have been?  Heck yeah!  And I will need to work at it every day for some time.  But that's ok.  Progress.  Not perfection.  Thanksagain, Krista!

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1 comment:

Krista said...

I'm so glad you you had a better day today. I know it's hard to not want to do things perfectly but we're only human. I think just being aware of our own actions & reactions really helps shift our focus on how to change. It's good that we can all help each other with this challenge. :)